At Bernie’s Chocolate Box there will be a fundraising benefit bring your own booze night. Book online here:
Or Book in advance and collect tickets from the shop.
Not just a plumber’s housewife! Anecdotes ~ of the building trade. Details, names and places have been changed to protect the identities of the …guilty.
I live near the town centre. People who go out at night in Ramsgate, living near me, should be able to walk home but over the past few months they may be stumbling along dark streets as if in a rural hamlet or underdeveloped African town.
I don’t know what time the lights are going off, as I don’t get out much, but I was very shocked to discover they were already off when I arrived home last night at just 11.40 (from commiserating with residents of Rochester and Strood).
Maybe making the streets too dark and unsafe to walk is a way of boosting the local economy for taxis? Or simply stopping people from going out?
In general I think darkness is a good idea, I think there is way too much light pollution at night, so we can’t see the milky way and it costs loads of money and resources to provide that street lighting but we seem to have taken a step too far to plunge towns into darkness. I’m not sure they’ve got the headline correct on Kent Councils web page about SAFE and sensible lighting http://www.kent.gov.uk/about-the-council/campaigns-and-events/safe-and-sensible-street-lighting
On a side NOTE: The last time I went to an small African city they had just got 24 hour electricity and street lights through the night. How shocked will they be if they make the journey to the UK to find we do not have street lighting at night!
There is a popular internet campaign to get Blanc banned from the UK and Canada after he was already kicked out of Australia. He runs seminars on how to pick up women, nothing wrong with that I think. According to those who want him banned he is sexist, racist, offensive and tricks women into having sex with him and he’s sharing his tips, tricks and vile attitude with men who pay to attend his seminars; thereby promoting sexism, rape and etc…
OK my instant reaction was to sign the petition as a way of signalling that I am against sexism.
But within seconds my other instant reaction saved me:
I am for Freedom of Speech and Against Censorship no matter if I disagree with the views, banning people (or books) does sit well with me.
Let us assume everything they say about Julien Blanc is correct and ask should he be banned from this country and should his writings and videos be banned.
NO and for so many reasons, I will try to be succinct.
The last point may be the most important. I have held a whole pile of unpopular minority opinions for most of my life and am pleased that in the UK we are tolerant of vegetarian, atheist, left-wing, queer, feminists. I can say what I like and live how I please; that is not possible in many countries today. In my life time (am I’m not that old) it was perfectly legal to discriminate against people because of their race, gender or sexuality. It was once an unpopular minority who fought for changes in these laws. It is not surprising then that sexist, racist and homophobic views are still around but banning them is no way to challenge them. Banning the freedom of speech to express sexist views will not help women, at all.
There is the other question: Is it True What They are saying about Julien Blanc?
I don’t know and I’m not interested enough to find out. The man should be free to say what he wants and if people are willing to pay to hear him then that’s fine.
But I am a cynic, I don’t believe what I’m told just because it is in a newspaper. e.g:
These things are all presented as if they are going to be good for women and children but they are not.
There is a moral agenda being promoted that sex should be within a monogamous relationship and recreational sex for fun is wrong, especially if it is between casual friends or strangers.
I can’t help wondering if the same moralists are behind the campaign to ban Julien Blanc, after all he seems to be happily promoting the idea that multiple casual partners is a good thing.
I would call myself a feminist, I am annoyed by sexism around me on a daily basis. So how offensive is Blanc?
Those who are outraged by him say watch this, so I did:
The clip and it isn’t as described in the Guardian. I think most people in the UK would watch this and see it as no big deal. It is not more sexist or racist than many stand-up comedy shows. It is edited so we do not get the full context but Blanc appears to be giving an entertaining talk in the way that many of us talk/joke about sex sometimes.
(sadly) I think you can hear far more offensive comments than these if you see a lot of stand-up comedy – even on TV, if you hang out in a bar or listen in to a bunch of men talking (not about football).
Does Blanc Manipulate Women Into Having Sex?
Another big question. How honest are any of us? I read How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Am I a fraud because when I’m nice to people and listen to them instead of bluntly telling them what I think? There are so many books about understanding the opposite sex. Is someone being deceptive if they learn lessons from those. The objection to Blanc seems to be because he talks about sex as a goal rather than getting a girlfriend, so as I said, it is a moral agenda.
I think the campaign against Blanc presents women as gullible victims who are easily taken in rather than people who actually also have their own goals and agenda.
Many people will sign that petition without watching the clip but if that is the worst they have on him then this really is a story about nothing.
If you want to read the alternative view point, it was in the Guardian
There is an alternative petition against banning Blanc. http://www.change.org/p/facebook-do-not-censor-julien-blanc-do-not-deny-julien-blanc-a-uk-visa
I didn’t sign that either because it says he isn’t sexist and he helps men. I don’t know if it is true and for me it is not the issue.
IF All they Say About Julien Blanc is True and it may be
To my mind the problem is not this man the problem is that vile views towards women and sex and violence can thrive in a society that is
These are the problems to tackle.
Would you like to stand up and talk in front of others?
Thanet speakers are meeting this Thursday, it is an open day so all are welcome and it is free. The event is at the Royal Temple Yacht Club (arrive 7.30 for 8pm prompt start).
I will be giving a short speech on How I Plan to Kill My Husband, please don’t tell him.
I blame Kent trading standards – their logo should be on it but is not currently showing…
Our website is up and running but with out the KTS logo, hopefully will be rectified soon.
If November nights are long, dark and lonely you could come and listen to me talk about
How I Plan To Kill My Husband.
A plot I am working on, ssshhh don’t tell him.
I don’t expect it to take long, perhaps ten or fifteen minutes (that goes for the plan as well as my little speech).
It will be at the Open Evening of Thanet Speaker’s Club on Thursday 13th November
arrive early 7.40ish because we start at 8pm prompt and generally finish at 10pm ish.
There will be other entertaining and interesting speakers and a chance to get up and have a go yourself – for 2 minutes.
As for the other important details.
It is FREE for guests
and it takes place at the Royal Temple Yacht Club
If 12 and 13 year olds in secondary school were asked to strip down to their underwear together in a mixed class of girls and boys there would be be plenty of complaints. If you think that increased privacy should always be in place for pubescent children then it follows that children from the age of 8, year 3 (at the latest), should be split into single sex groups when changing for PE, games and swimming.
What age do children begin puberty?
About 12 is the average age for girls to begin their periods and boys develop later than girls. These are just generalisations and menstruation is not at the start of puberty.
About 10% of girls will have started their periods before the end of year 6 (end of junior school) and some will start in year 5. These girls are not odd, these ages are within the normal pattern of development.
Half of all girls begin puberty before the age of 10
Breast development and pubic hair signal the onset of puberty a long time before the first period.
Puberty in girls usually begins between the ages of 8 to 12 years (only a year later for boys) and large scale research in the US suggests that 6 or 7 could be considered to be “normal.”
In a year 3 Class 2 or 3 girls may begin puberty out of 15 girls.
About 1 in 6 white girls and 2 in 5 black girls had breast development by their 8th birthday according to published research http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2010/08/09/peds.2009-3079.abstract
Other research concurs, around the age of 8 is a normal age for puberty to start in caucasian children
What this all means is that statistically around half of girls in school will begin puberty before the final year of junior school. It seems most schools (but not all) do split children in year 6 for changing purposes but many, many schools do not split younger children.
I suspect this may not be an issue for boys? Almost all women will recall changing for sport being an unpleasant and embarrassing experience when going through puberty (even when they are only with girls). Why make it so much worse for the youngest girls, who are the first in their class to experience these changes, by making them strip off in front of boys too.
It is significant that Steingraber says, “early puberty alters a girl’s social interactions in ways that produce trauma and erode self-esteem.”